Should You Have Sex on the First Date? Find Out Some Great Dating Tips

One author wrote ‘ If I had a nickel for every women who’s asked, “Will sex on the first date ruin everything?” I’d be a well to do financially woman with a lot of slutty friends. Sex on the first date is not considered the best road but find out more from people that have experience in the dating and online dating vista.

All I recognize is that I still respect the man in the morning even if he does put out on the first. Occasionally I even fix him breakfast. But I’m not always sure the spirit is reciprocal. She continued. And this affirmation makes one inquire about the principles of the dating setting and how to behave even if you just got together from an online dating website or have been in a respectable friendship or occasional relationship for a while as Friends.

This could possibly come as a shock however oftentimes is something of a double standard in our world today. A concupiscent adult female who is unembarrassed and un-remorseful with her sexual appetites often runs into heartbreak. Sometimes this represents the outcome of her lover’s religious raising, which could ignite the unconscious minds “shame on” button after sex — even while his understanding wishes to argue it’s okay. Sometimes it’s due to a more world-wide “good girls don’t” perceptual experience. Sometimes it’s due to the fact that your partner’s solitary involvement in you to lead off with was sexual and having met his curiosity, he’s set to move on.

Realize, a lot of men do not necessarily regard sex in the setting of a dedicated relationship. So their response to your question might be: “Relationship? We don’t have a relationship — we had sex!” Which makes sense with the dating and relationship scene these days. It might appear that some online dating sites are just for that: sex. It really is best for guys to look for safe relationships with a adult female, through smart dating habits.

Sex on the 1st date. This really ain’t breaking news here. I mean, there exists really nothing new about this quandary. While obviously I don’t acknowledge for certain, I am pretty certain it’s been around since the whole concept of going steady got started, whether it existed before the online dating web sites came around or before there was even a social online dating scene. Earlier times in this century, when dating really got started, it still was a ‘social taboo’

Every dating book that I have ever read, every dating and relationship and advice blog or on-line dating website and online relationship social forum that utters about sex on the first date sounds out it’s a unsound thought. Many guys say it’s a risky idea. I would suppose it seems as though the consensus follows that it’s a unsound idea. Especially when meeting on-line, on the net, through dating web sites, Facebook, MySpace or any other techniques that are not through family and acquaintances one requires to take even longer to develop a good man and woman human relationship to get to know each other. Then communicating online through electronic mail or on the net you’ll then acquire a better estimation of what attracted you in the first place if it was through an onlilne dating website.

They allege that sex on the first date stamps out the mystery and that guys like a challenge. There’s also that saying no one wishes to buy the whole ice cream truck when you are giving out the popsicles for free. Oh and who wants the whole cow when you are giving the milk away for free is a very familiar story that you possible have have read about on the social blogs and dating website chat boards on the internet. I am pretty sure there are dozens more, but you get the idea here. Part of me can buy into this. Though technically if we experience sex on the third or fourth date won’t that wipe out the mystery? Plus if you are only into a person because they are mysterious I don’t think you’re headed for eternal bliss. After all, the mystery does eventually expire right?

I could go on about that, though that is not particularly where I am trying to go with this. Most women have learned very early on that a woman gives the last say with the entire sex thing. A lot of guys have told me that this is because the woman has more at stake. Which, sure I can agree there. Shes the one that can get pregnant thing.

Though here’s what I have to say about that. If you are leaving the decision to me, don’t complain about the decision that I make. Let me explain here because I don’t mean that a guy is actually complaining. I know he’s not calling his friends saying something like “man you won’t believe what this chick did last night.”

To me, when a guy gives you the go ahead to decide something, that implies that he’s fine with whatever decision you make. He’s cool if you want to have sex; he’s cool if you don’t. However, if you aren’t going to call me again based solely on the fact that we did it on the first date I would say that makes you pretty not cool with the decision I made.

It’s kind of like when a guy asks a woman where she wants to go to eat. She says she doesn’t care and he can choose. Then when they get to dinner she complains the entire night about how she didn’t want to go to that restaurant. Not cool is it? In fact it’s a pretty darn annoying.

Here’s the thing about this whole sex thing. Women enjoy it too and we don’t always want to be rational about it. Sometimes women get caught up in the moment and just want to do what feels right. Sometimes a woman doesn’t want to do things (or not do things) just because that’s not what a woman “should” be doing. Sometimes she just wants to be who she is and not worry so much about what a guy will think of her. We don’t punish a guy for doing that so why can’t we do the same? She would think.

And I know there are guys out there who legitimately don’t buy into how “wrong” sex on the first date is. Though this kind of adds to my whole point here. How are women really supposed to know what a guy is thinking or will think? How are women supposed to know which kind of guy we are dealing with here?

Perhaps if a guy really feels that strongly against having sex on the first date he should speak up (just like the woman that actually cares about where you go to eat). And I know, I know. Guys won’t ever turn toss off sex but if you don’t address then it’s not fair to use it against a adult female, right?

I am well mindful that there exists a double standard, so I kind of feel like I am pounding a dead horse here. All I am enunciating is that if you actually care about your dating companion, getting sex on a first date (and by care I mean it alters the way you feel about your dating relationship partner) then don’t act like you don’t care.

As for myself, sex on the 1st date, and probably any, is simply too hazardous. It is best to wait until marriage. I don’t doubt that there are may of you that the heartache.

Safer Sex Menu

Safer sex can be fun and you won’t have to worry as much. The best advice is to use safer sex supplies until you and your lover are in a monogamous relationship.

– Saucy phone-sex or sex talk
– A luscious body massage
– Naughty videos & audios
– Scrumptious body licking
– A spicy striptease
– Savory kissing
– Mouth watering mutual masturbation
– Tasty cleavage fornication
– Juicy oral delights with a condom or rubber dam
– Steamy sex with vibrators and other adult toys (Not shared)
– Delicious penetration with an FDA approved condom

– Sugary caresses
– Syrupy love bites served gently
– Sweet body pressing
– Warm blows of breath
– Creamy cuddles

Condom Talk

If your lover gives you a hard time about wearing a condom, here are some good responses and excellent reasons why you need to use one.

Him: I don’t think condoms are romantic.
Her: Just let me show you how romantic condoms can be.
Him: You don’t trust me, do you?
Her: It’s not a matter of trust; it’s a matter of health.
Him: I don’t like to use condoms.
Her: I don’t have sex without them.
Him: I haven’t had sex with anyone in years so I know I’m clean.
Her: Thanks for being so honest, but let’s use one anyway.
Him: I can’t feel anything when I wear a condom.
Her: Let me provide you with some extra stimulation.
Him: I know I’ll lose my erection by the time I get it on.
Her: Here, let me put it on for you with my mouth.
Him: I’m only going to use a condom this once.
Her: Once is all it takes.
Him: Sorry, I don’t have one.
Her: That’s ok. I do.
Him: How come you have condoms on you? Did you plan to have sex with me?
Her: I made sure I had some because I really care about you.
Him: Forget it. I’m not going to use a condom.
Her: Fine. Then let’s not have sex until we can work out our differences.

Dr. Ava Cadell’s Sexual Consent Form

Who needs it and why use it?

Superstar athletes, actors, rock stars, politicians, even entrepreneurs have groupies that will do just about anything to have sex with them, but can they be trusted? Will they lie about the act being consensual? Could they threaten to sue or worse still, make an accusation about sexual assault? You bet they can! So how can these people who are regularly out of town and away from home, which can lead to loneliness and result in temptation, protect themselves? Condoms can protect from the Std’s and unwanted pregnancy. Another form of protection is to have a signed sexual consent form before having any sex as I described on TV’s Celebrity Justice, CNN , ABC , Fox News and Good Morning America

If you think that a sexual consent form is only for the rich and famous, think again. Even if you have no assets, you need to protect yourself from false accusations because you can lose everything including your personal property, freedom and reputation. There are many other benefits to signing a sexual consent form, including the fact that you literally open up a form of intimate communication prior to rushing into sex. And, ladies the sexual consent form can protect you from being taken advantage of sexually because there is an -out clause- that stipulates that if you say the words -Code Red,- your partner must stop immediately. I chose this phrase because the words -No- and -Stop- have been used all too frivolously in our society and unfortunately, they are not always taken seriously. By using the sexual consent form with an FDA approved condom, you could protect yourself legally and sexually.
Benefits of a Sexual Consent Form
– I created it so that there will be no confusion or miscommunication as far as sexual consent is concerned.
– It protects men from conniving women who may bring false charges of sexual misconduct for financial gain.
– Even men who have no assets need to protect themselves from false accusations because they can lose everything that is dearest to them. Property, freedom and their reputation.
– This form is actually a way for the man to ask for permission to have sex with the woman.
– Women should NOT sign it if they do not trust the man are not ready for intimacy.
– It can be a form of foreplay before you get to the bedroom since you get to talk about sex before rushing into it. Great communication.
– The woman can select which sexual activities she wants to indulge in.
– -No- & -Stop- has been used frivolously, playfully and teasingly & is not taken seriously anymore. The phrase Code Red will not be mistaken for anything other than -high alert- hands off, you’ve gone too far. A similar ‘Out Clause’ is used in consensual bondage.
– Code Red is an alert that means stop because I am having physical or emotional problems. He must stop instantly.
– Any contract is contestable, even a prenuptial or Will. But if I were accused, I would rather go to court with it than without it. It would be admissible and relevant as evidence of consent if signed by the alleged victim.
– It’s a great way to keep tabs on how many sex partners you’ve had.
– This is not a rape tool. On the contrary, I believe that it will prevent rape. A rapist is less likely to use a sexual consent form.
– As for the argument that a woman can be forced into signing it, I contend that a handwriting expert could probably identify a forced signature.
– There is never a guarantee that someone will NOT take advantage of you sexually, emotionally or physically. The best line of defence is always to be cautious and listen to your gut instincts. Never do anything that you do not want to do!

Is Oral Sex really Sex?
It is ridiculous to view oral sex as -not sex.- It’s just as intimate as sexual intercourse, so why would you engage in oral sex with someone you wouldn’t want to have intercourse with? Well, I’ll tell you why. It all started in 1998 when then President Bill Clinton stated publicly, -I did not have sexual relations with that woman- even though he had repeatedly received oral sex from his intern, Monica Lewinsky. Now there is the growing problem of defining what sex really is. In the minds of many teenagers, oral sex isn’t really sex. They seem to think they can stay virgins by engaging in oral sex because their hymen isn’t broken. That’s like saying, you can have anal sex and remain a virgin. Technically, it’s true, but theoretically and emotionally it’s not. Some guys also think they aren’t cheating when they have oral sex with another woman because they can’t get her pregnant. Giving and receiving oral sex is one of the most intimate and erotic acts that can be exchanged within a loving adult relationship and yes, it is sex!
Oral sex isn’t a safe sex activity

Although oral sex is safer than vaginal and anal sex, it is still possible to contract Std’s. The bottom line is that oral sex should be avoided if the giver has any sores or bleeding gums in the mouth. Even if he or she has just brushed or flossed their teeth, it can cause microscopic scratches in the lining of the mouth that makes one vulnerable to infection. Because of this, doctors advise the use of condoms for fellatio (flavored condoms are best) and the use of female condoms, dental dams or kitchen plastic wrap) for cunnilingus.

Better to be safe than sorry

Many people are unclear on the risks associated with oral sex. Unprotected oral sex carries a lesser risk for the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases (Std’s) than unprotected intercourse or anal penetration, but there’s still a risk for both the giver and the receiver of oral sex. First let’s look at how to avoid these contagious Std’s by practicing safer sex.

Safer Sex Supplies

If you love yourself, you must protect yourself. Ladies, there’s no reason why you can’t enjoy the eroticism of oral sex and practice safer sex at the same time. Even if you’re in a monogamous relationship, you’ll want to have some of the safer sex supplies around to help you add more pleasure, persity and spontaneity to your oral sex adventures.

Female Condoms

Reality Condoms are the most well known, but they recently changed their name to FC Female Condoms. Femidom is another brand of female condoms. Most female condoms work the same way. They’re made of polyurethane (stronger than latex), are hypo-allergenic, heat conductive, and odorless. They are a soft, loose-fitting sheath specifically designed to protect women from pregnancy and Std’s by lining the inside of her vagina. Read the instructions before inserting it because if you don’t insert it correctly, it’s like not using protection at all. The female condom has to go deep inside the vagina and over the cervix.

Dental Dams

Aptly named because they are used by dentists to isolate a tooth. Dental dams come in various sizes and flavors. Made of ultra think latex, these square shaped barriers allow good sensations for oral sex. Sheer Glyde Dams are FDA approved for protection against Std’s for cunnilingus and rimming. The best way to use a dam is for the giver to mark the -mouth- side of the dam with a marker so that they knows which side to lick, then apply a couple of drops of lubricant on the other side, press the dam against her vulva with two hands and enjoy.

Latex Gloves and Finger Cots

Good oral sex involves the hands as well as the mouth. There’s nothing more exciting than orally pleasing a woman’s clitoris and fingering her vagina or anus simultaneously. By using latex gloves and or finger cots (think of them as mini condoms for your fingers) you can increase erotic sensations and protect the receiver from jagged fingernails, cuts, germs or viral Std’s such as herpes, which can be spread by skin-to-skin contact.

Lubricants

We all know, -wetter is better.- But, which lube is best? It can be very confusing because there are so many to choose from including, odorless, tasteless, water soluble lubricants with a lightconsistency and without Nonoxynol-9 spermicide. Here are some favorites: Wet Light, Astroglide, ForePlay Personal Gel, Aqua Lube, Sensua Organics and Probe Silky Light.

What Stds can I get from Oral Sex?
The following list of Std’s is the most contagious and common when it comes to performing and receiving oral sex on a person. While no one knows exactly what the degree of risk is, to ensure safeties make sure that no cuts or lesions are present in the mouth or on the genitals. Protect yourself and your partner by using a barrier to avoid the contact of bodily fluids that may result in catching a sexually transmitted disease.

Herpes is a virus that causes sporadic flare-ups of painful blisters, usually around the mouth and or genitals. Herpes can hop from mouth to mouth and from mouth to genitals through the mucous membranes and skin. It can be spread by hand to vagina or hand to anus contact. Since Herpes is such a common virus, you can get a prescription drug called Valtrex.

Genital Warts are similar to Herpes in that they are a virus that remains in your system for life. They are spread in the same way through skin to skin and mucous membrane contact. The warts have to be removed surgically by laser and the bad news is that they may reoccur anyway.

Gonorrhea is a serious bacterial Std that can be spread through unprotected oral-vaginal contact. Symptoms may not show, but vaginal burning, discharge and pelvic pain are common warning signs. The good news is that antibiotics do work, but they must be taken for weeks.

Syphilis is a severe bacterial Std that can also be spread through unprotected oral-vaginal contact, especially if there is a sore present on the mouth or her vagina. Syphilis can be deadly if it isn’t cured in the first couple of stages. The first visible sign and stage is the sore at the entrance of the vagina; the second sign is a body rash. Fortunately, Penicillin can cure Syphilis in these early stages. However, the third stage attacks the nervous system and debilitates the heart. Medications have limited success if left untreated.

Crabs and pubic lice are tiny creatures that gravitate towards the pubic hair where they live. They can be spread from one infested person to another. Symptoms include itching, swollen lymph glands and a mild fever.

Hepatitis A is a dangerous virus that can be transmitted by rimming or analingus (licking or penetrating the anal opening with your tongue). Other rimming risks include anal herpes, anal warts, internal parasites and even HIV. Hepatitis A can be prevented by getting a hepatitis A shot. In some cases hepatitis infection can cause muscle ache, fever, loss of appetite, headaches or dizziness.

Hepatitis B can be a life-threatening virus transmitted from sexual contact or contaminated needles. It’s found in blood and other body fluids, such as semen, vaginal secretions and the breast of a lactating woman. It’s possible to contract Hepatitis B when performing unprotected oral sex, especially when fluids from a carrier enter your body through a cut or sore in your mouth. Symptoms of Hepatitis B are fever, abdominal pain, jaundice and in some cases liver disease. There is no known cure, but it can be prevented with a vaccine.

Hepatitis C is the most deadly of all the hepatitis diseases. It is transmitted exclusively through direct blood contact so the receiver of oral sex must be menstruating, and the person going down on her must have a cut or sore on his mouth. There is no known cure or vaccine for hepatitis C at this time. Symptoms include the same as for A and B, plus dark urine, light stool colors, yellow eyes or skin and tenderness of the liver area.

HIV/AIDS can be fatal when the blood, semen, vaginal secretions or breast milk of an infected person enters another person’s bloodstream through a cut, sore or blood vessel. If you perform oral sex on a menstruating partner, you could be at risk. Even if you have recently flossed or brushed your teeth, it’s possible that you cut your gums and you could be at risk. HIV doesn’t have any immediate warning signs so it’s possible to have the virus for years and transmit it to others. The first symptoms of AIDS are weight loss, night sweats, pneumonia and other illnesses related to a low immune system. There is no known cure or vaccine for AIDS, but combinations of medications can slow the virus down.
How to properly put on a male condom
Prepare: Always check your condom for an expiration date, throw it out if it is expired. Also, make sure to store condoms in a cool place, such as a desk drawer, never store a condom in your wallet, hot environments (such as in your car) or if it has been washed or dried by accident. Don’t hesitate to get a new condom if you have any doubts.

The penis must be erect in order to put on the condom. Do not attempt to put a condom on if the penis is limp.

Opening: Be careful when opening the package, condoms can rip very easily. Feel free to use your teeth, in a sexy manner, but be careful.
If the man’s penis is not circumcised, be sure to pull the foreskin back first.

The condom should be right side out. Make sure to unroll the condom slightly at first in order to check which direction it is unrolling in. Slip it over the head of the penis; moving downward (it should unroll easy). (Hint: try putting the condom on with your mouth, watch your teeth.)

It is important that you hold the top half inch of the condom between your thumb and forefinger when you roll it down. This will leave space for when your man ejaculates.

Roll down the condom as far as it will allow, it should reach the base of the penis.

In the case of anal intercourse (remember: always use a condom during anal intercourse, even if you cannot get pregnant) use a lot of lubricant, the anal region is not naturally lubricated and can tear more easily than the vagina. For intercourse, a water-based lubricant is best. Always apply lubricant after the condom has been put on, a condom could easily slip off of a lubricated penis. Apply lubricant as often as needed, dry condoms break more easily.

For Men: make sure that when you pull out, you continue to hold the condom in place at the base of the penis. If possible, pull out while your penis is still erect. It is imperative that you remove the condom only after you are completely out of your partner’s vagina.

Once you have safely removed the condom, throw it away immediately, a condom can be used once, and only once. In the case of anal intercourse, make sure you use an entirely new condom, never switch from vaginal to anal intercourse with the same condom. A man should never ejaculate in the same condom twice, and should also never wear a condom that somebody else has already used.

Also, remember never to use more than one condom at a time. -Doubling Up- only increases the chances of the condom breaking.

Using a female condom
How to properly put on a female condom:

The female condom is a sleeve of polyurethane with a closed end and a larger open end. There is a flexible ring in each end.
Have a condom fashion show
We all need to know about safer sex practices. And, safer sex can be very sexy and fun. For those of you using condoms, experiment with different kinds of condoms and practice putting them on manually and orally.

Condoms:
There are many kinds of condoms including flavored, polyurethane, extra-large, snug fitting, extra-sensitive, and condoms with nubs and stimulators. Here are some examples for you to choose from and experiment with:

Latex: Mentor, Ramses, Durex, Global Protection, Sheik, Pleaser, Kimono, Lifestyles, Crown, Magnum, trojan, Contempo, Paradise

Natural: Fourex, Natural Lamb, Skin Kling

Polyurethane: Avanti, Reality for women (female condom)

New Condoms:
Pleasure Plus Bulbus Head (Gives room inside the condom for the head of the penis to have more friction.)

Custom fit condoms by condomania.com.
You can also experiment with dental dams, latex gloves or finger cots.
Safer Sex Activities
– Cuddling and caressing
– Dry kissing
– Undressing
– Phone sex
– Watching or reading erotica
– Cleavage fornication
– Massage
– Mutual Masturbation
– Manual stimulation
– Oral sex with an FDA approved condom or rubber dam
– Sex toys unshared
– Intercourse with a condom and spermicide

Unsafe Sex
– French kissing in the presence of open sores or cuts
– Manual stimulation in the presence of open sores or cuts
– Oral sex without a barrier
– Sharing unclean sex toys
– Sucking the breasts of a lactating woman
– Vaginal or anal intercourse without an FDA approved condom
– Penetration of anything from the anus to the vagina
– Never blow or force air into the vagina because it can cause an embolism that could be fatal, especially if the woman is pregnant.

Birth Control Methods

NuvaRing-99.7%; $30-$35/ monthly. Protects against pregnancy for one month, no pill to take daily, does not require a -fitting- by a clinician, does not require the use of spermicide, nothing to put in place before intercourse. Possible: more regular, shorter periods, less: menstrual flow and cramping, acne, iron deficiency anemia, excess body hair, headaches, depression and vaginal dryness and painful intercourse associated with menopause, reduces the risk of ovarian and endometrial cancers, pelvic inflammatory disease, noncancerous growths of the breasts, ovarian cysts, and osteoporosis (thinning of the bones), fewer occurrences of ectopic pregnancy (in a fallopian tube), ability to become pregnant returns quickly when use is stopped. Increased vaginal discharge, vaginal irritation or infection, cannot use a diaphragm, cap, or shield for a backup method of birth control, rare but serious health risks, including blood clots, heart attack, and stroke (women who are 35 and older and smoke are at a greater risk), change in sex drive and temporary irregular bleeding, weight gain or loss, breast tenderness, nausea (rarely, vomiting, changes in mood, and other discomforts)

Patch- 99.7%;$30-$40/month supply of patches. Protects against pregnancy for one month, no pill to take daily, nothing to put in place before intercourse, Possible: more regular, shorter periods, less: menstrual flow and cramping, acne, iron deficiency anemia, excess body hair, premenstrual symptoms (such as related headaches and depression) and vaginal dryness and painful intercourse associated with menopause, reduces the risk of ovarian and endometrial cancers, pelvic inflammatory disease, noncancerous growths of the breasts, ovarian cysts, and osteoporosis (loss of bone mass), fewer occurrences of ectopic pregnancy (in not in the uterus), ability to become pregnant returns quickly when use is stopped Skin reaction at the site of application, menstrual cramps, may not be as effective for women who weigh more than 198 pounds, rare but serious health risks, including blood clots, heart attack, and stroke (women who are 35 and older and smoke are at a greater risk), other side effects include change in sex drive and temporary irregular bleeding, weight gain or loss, breast tenderness, nausea (rarely, vomiting, changes in mood, and other discomforts).

POPs (Progestin-only Birth Control Pills)- 92-99.7%; $20-$35/ monthly. Can be used by women who cannot take estrogen, nothing has to be put in place before vaginal intercourse, can be used while breastfeeding, ability to become pregnant returns quickly when use is stopped, irregular bleeding patterns, headache, nausea, dizziness, sore breasts, must be taken at the same time of day each day to reduce the risk of pregnancy and irregular bleeding

IUD- 99.2-99.9%; $175-$500/ exam, insertion, and follow-up visit. Nothing to put in place before intercourse, ParaGard® (copper IUD) may be left in place for up to 12 years, Mirena® (hormone IUD) for five years, no pill to take daily, Mirena® may reduce menstrual cramps, ability to become pregnant returns quickly when IUD is removed Increase in cramps and heavier and longer periods (copper IUDs), spotting between periods, increased chance of tubal infection leading to infertility if inserted when a woman has a STI, rarely, wall of uterus is punctured during insertion, rarely, insertion can cause infection, pregnancies, which rarely occur, are more likely to be ectopic (not in uterus)

Depo-Provera- 97-99.7%. $20-$40/visits to clinician. $30-$75/ injection. Can be used by women who cannot take estrogen, nothing has to be put in place before vaginal intercourse, can be used while breastfeeding, effective for 12 weeks, no pill to take daily, helps prevent cancer of the lining of the uterusirregular bleeding, headache, nausea, dizziness, sore breasts, must receive injection every three months, loss of monthly period, change of appetite, weight gain, depression, hair loss, or increased hair on the face or body, nervousness, skin rash or spotty darkening of the skin, change in sex drive, side effects not reversed until medication wears off (up to 12 weeks), causes temporary bone thinning, may cause delay in getting pregnant after shots are stopped, pregnancies, which rarely occur, are more likely to be ectopic (not in the uterus)

Abstinence-100%; Free. No medical or hormonal side effects of any kind. Many people find it difficult to abstain from sex play for long periods of time

Withdrawal- 73-96% (nearly 100% w/condom); Free (or cost of condoms). Can be used when no other method is available. Not effective against Stds, requires great self-control, experience

Sterilization- 99.5-99.9%; $2,000-$6,000/ Tubal sterilization; $350-$1,000/ vasectomy. Permanent protection against pregnancy, no lasting side effects, no effects on sexual pleasure. Risks of minor surgery, regret, usually not reversible, rarely, tubes reopen, allowing pregnancy to occur

The Pill- 92-99.7% $20-$35/monthly. Nothing to put in place before intercourse, more regular, shorter periods, less: menstrual flow, cramping, acne, iron deficiency anemia, excess body hair, headaches, depression and vaginal dryness, and painful intercourse associated with menopause. Reduces the risk of ovarian and endometrial cancers, pelvic inflammatory disease, noncancerous growths of the breasts, ovarian cysts, and osteoporosis (loss of bone mass), fewer occurrences of ectopic pregnancy (not in the uterus), ability to become pregnant returns quickly when use is stopped, can be used to change the timing and frequency of your period rare but serious health risks, including blood clots, heart attack, and stroke (women who are 35 and older and smoke are at a greater risk), change in sex drive, temporary irregular bleeding, weight gain or loss, breast tenderness, nausea (rarely, vomiting, changes in mood, and other discomforts), must be taken daily, persistent side effects may be relieved by having your clinician change your prescription

Diaphragm- 84-94% $15-$75/ diaphragm
No major health concerns, can be used during breastfeeding. Can be messy, allergies to latex, silicone, or spermicide, should not be used during vaginal bleeding or infection, increased risk of bladder infection, can only be left in place for up to 24 hours

Condom- 85-98% (nearly 100% with withdrawal) $0.50 and up – some family planning centers give them away or charge very little. Easy to buy in drugstores and supermarkets, can be put on or inserted as part of sex play, can help relieve premature ejaculation, helps to protect against Stds and AIDS Latex allergies, loss of sensation, breakage

Female Condom- 79-95% $2.50/per condom Easy to buy in drugstores and supermarkets, can be put on or inserted as part of sex play, erection not necessary to keep condom in place, can be used by people allergic to latex, external ring of condom may stimulate clitoris. May be noisy, may be difficult to insert, may irritate vagina, penis, may slip into vagina during intercourse

Sponge- 68-91% $7.50-$9/package of three sponges. Easy to buy in drugstores and supermarkets, can be put on or inserted as part of sex play, does not interrupt sex play (it can be inserted hours ahead of time) May irritate sex organs, can be messy, may be difficult to remove, cannot be used during vaginal bleeding

Spermicide -71-82% $8/applicator kits of spermicide ($4-$8 refills). Easy to buy in drugstores and supermarkets, can be put on or inserted as part of sex play May irritate sex organs, can be messy

Fertitility Awareness- Based Methods (FAMs)-checking temperature daily, checking cervical mucus daily, recording menstrual cycles on calendar, keeping a very accurate record of when your period comes each month, keeping track of your menstrual cycle using a string of beads called CycleBeads 75-99% $5-$8 and up/temperature kits (drugstore).

Online Dating Sets Disabled People Free

Traditionally society has disregarded the sexual and emotional needs of disabled people preferring to treat them as asexual and assuming that sex was a non-issue for most. Disabled people too believed themselves to be unattractive, as they did not fit into the usual standards of beauty set by society.

It is little wonder then that many of those living with disabilities or limiting medical conditions have bad self-images and suffer from low self-esteem. Many try to conform to society’s expectations and suppress any sexual desire they may feel. They prefer to ignore their sexuality, as they feel guilty about having such thoughts.

Disabled people have also faced isolation in the area of formal sex education. In line with the general view of – they don’t need it, many sex education programmes overlook the disabled youngster. This leaves many experiencing sexual desires but having no idea of how to handle them or who to turn to for help.

The situation is as difficult for those who face a deliberating or life threatening disease or become disabled suddenly. There are so many issues to cope with at this time that their sex lives are often pushed to the background. However, questions ranging from whether sexual activity is possible to how soon and with what adjustments it can resume remain major concerns. Self-esteem too takes a beating, as the person feels inadequate compared to earlier.

The truth of the matter is that those who suffer from impairments also enjoy sex and have the same longings to be touched and loved as anyone else. However there are not enough counselling services to address these issues. Nor are there many options which let these feelings come out into the open.

The emergence of online dating sites especially for the disabled have indeed made a big difference and set a lot of people free from feelings of frustration. Through these dating sites the disabled single can now connect with others who understand their impairment and initiate new friendships and romantic relationships without fearing rejection.

In addition to setting up dating and matrimonial alliances, the sites also provide an opportunity to network with people all over the globe. Disabled people can log on the web to get advice and information especially on matters related to sex and relationships. They can interact with others through discussion forums, message boards and chat rooms as well as gather knowledge on matters related to disabilities through interesting articles on a wide range of subjects.

Dating sites for the disabled can be both free and commercial. There are sites that are for specific disabilities or conditions like multiple sclerosis or visual impairment alongside those that are more general. Some sites offer adult sex and adult chat rooms while others may simply act as introduction services. Many dating sites have special features that are unique to them.

As a result of this vast variety of information and services on offer, the dating sites have not only educated society but also have also set disabled people free from their inhibitions.

How To Choose The Right Adult Toy Party Company To Represent

It can be tough to start a new business. Decisions, decisions. One such decision is, do you structure your new business on your own, or do you reach out and research companies that supply all the marketing material and products for you. In the Adult Toy Party business (home party category), there are about a dozen companies you can choose from to be your base of operations. After 4 months of extensive research, about a half a dozen come up worthy of being placed on the consideration list. Only 1 of those companies comes out on top.

This article will not extend itself to naming names. It’s purpose is not to be malicious or to bad mouth other companies, that’s just poor business in itself. If you are with a company that practices what I call “Run from It” tactics, you already know that. If you are searching for an adult toy party business company to join – this article should give you a few questions to ask. Their answers will let you know they were in the running.

One of the first things you can do before even making the call is to go to Google and type in [Company Name] Complaints. One of the adult toy party companies that comes up on practically all the search pages for “Adult Toy Parties” (because they have been in business a long time, and spend a lot of money in marketing), came up with 205,000 results from this complaints search. With that – I really don’t have to go any further in my investigation. Not A Chance!

Even with extensive research, you can end up choosing the wrong company for you. We did, but realized the mistake quickly (within a month), got out, and started over. The GOOD that came out of our wrong choice was more questions to ask to determine the right choice.

You Know It’s A Bad Choice When (“Run From It!”)…

Monthly Sales Quotas

This is one in a series of requirements that lets me know that the company is self-serving. They are in it to make money for themselves and they could give a rats a$$ about whether or not you succeed. How many of us are in this to convert to full time? Sure, it’s always a dream, but in reality we are all just trying to supplement our income, or our spouse’s income. This month the kids may have soccer tournaments every weekend, next month we may be free to do parties all month – that’s what a home business is supposed to afford you – flexibility to make how much, or how little is within your schedule and desire. Don’t rope me into what YOU think I should be doing.

No, You Can NOT Construct Your Own Website.

Self-serving. The bulk of representative websites (the website they give you to market for your business) have corporate information all over it, giving your potential customers multiple avenues to contact the company directly. And, as a professional and multiple award winning web designer I think I have the authority to comment, the bulk of representative website are just plain bad – gaudy – error glittered, and un-optimized. Now, most of the individuals looking into the Adult Toy Party Home Business are NOT web designers – granted, but give them the option. Even a basic hosted Word Press template can become FAR more optimized than the representative sites.

Your company website and marketing material are splattered with corporate information.

Self-serving, self-serving, self-serving. Seriously, why would I want to hand out a bunch of catalogs that I paid for that have, on each page, the corporate toll free number and corporate website address? Why do I want to direct people to my website if the contact form goes to some corporate department where I then have to wait for them to sift through and get to it and forward it to me, I hope. I’ve heard the explanation that they are protecting themselves. They are making sure that if you decide to get out of the business, the material that you put out there still has a working contact tool. I say bull. My customers aren’t stupid and if they want to contact corporate they can certainly figure out how to do that without it being splattered all over MY BUSINESS marketing material.

Oh no, THAT product is only 30% profit

This was one of the straws that broke the back with the 1st company we chose. We bought in during a special which gave us 60% profit for 90 days. I guess we should have known that 60% was just too good to be true (your industry standard is 40%), but it was a special, and only for 90 days so we figured – nice little promotion. And from the outside, everything else looked good. Well, once in and placing orders we get the story that (about 70% of what we needed to order) some of the products were only 30% profit. That’s just deceitful, and with deceit that blatant, we were not going to take a chance on giving them any more of our efforts.

You can only market our parties to ladies

Why do so many of these companies feel that it is wrong (or even against the law) to promote romance among couples? (I checked. It’s not illegal). In Why Americans Divorce I read that “22 percent of men cited sex as the reason for the divorce”. In Sex Is Biggest Cause of Divorce I learned that a UK law firm reports “sex was a factor in 43 per cent of divorce cases”. Think about it. Wouldn’t it be cool if we, as romance consultants could be a savior in as little as .01% of that? If you saved ONE marriage, would that not be cool? And how about us as consultants? Don’t you think it might bring a couple or two closer together to run a romance business together?

You only make commission of 1 (or 2) levels of your team, and only if YOU maintain a certain monthly income.

OK, I get the rule of having to maintain a certain monthly income in order to reap the benefits of your team, although it would be nice (and potentially lucrative to the parent company) to have a business or 10 who simply excel in helping their team succeed. Business coaching is a pretty big field, you know? But regardless, I get that part – but, why should I be limited to just 1 or 2 levels of my team? I want to hear at least 4 or 5, and the company we settled in with does it Unlimited. Now THAT’S what I’M talking about!

Your hostess rewards program comes out of YOUR pocket – and worse still, the company marketing material designates what the hostess rewards program is.

So you (the parent company) are going to tell me what I have to give to a hostess for having a party for me, but I have to pay for it? Not cool. If I have to pay for it, then I should be able to decide what those incentives are. And in a perfect world YOU (the parent company) should be paying for it. You are, after all, reaping the bulk of the rewards.

You can only sell our products. No one else’s. Even if it is not in direct competition.

Just not cool. Why should I not be able to supplement my business further by offering a line of jewelry, or kitchen items, or plastics for that matter. Why Not? And really, if you don’t sell the liberator wedge, and I can get it wholesale, and it’s a seller, why should I be NOT allowed to sell it? If you don’t want us to sell what sells from someone else, than offer it yourself – otherwise, let us stock our business!

Those are a few of the items you should look out for that should cause you to continue your search, should the company you are looking at practice these tactics.

Some items that you do want your company to offer are:

Countless ways to earn. Look for at least 40% across the board on the main product line

Internet sales. Take a CLOSE look at the representative site that is offered. Take a look at it in ALL browsers. Take yourself all the way through a purchase (all the way to the point where you click accept to make the buy – stop there if you don’t want the item). Remember, the look and feel, the errors, the problems, all of this is going to reflect on YOUR business.

Customer promotions. There should be some incentives (that do NOT come out of your pocket) to help your customers want to buy.

Team building commission. You should be incentivized, and compensated for building and training your team.

Residual income. How is going the company going to help keep the income coming.

Bonuses. Look for car bonuses, house bonuses, travel bonuses, etc.

COMPANY PAID hostess rewards program. You should not be out of pocket in rewarding your hostess to through you a party.

It’s difficult enough to run your own business without being held down by restrictions, bad press, and uncooperative or no support. Check out your possible parent company thoroughly, and remember – if they aren’t living up to your standards or not producing what you believe you deserve, jump ship – there are other companies that will.

 

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Adult Dating and Personals – Finding Sex Partners Online

Dating is supposed to be fun and fulfilling. And, let’s face it, not everyone is exactly seeking a girl or boy to take home to mama, unless of course mama herself is not “traditional”. Adult dating and personals services were designed for those seeking fun and amorous dating. This includes casual sex as well as exploring of fantasies and fetishes.

Now, in this day and age, where “hanging out” and “hooking up” are accepted norms, the line as to where “adult dating” has been blurred quite a bit. Indeed, you can expect virtually each and every married couple to have engaging in premarital sex long before the wedding date, and sometimes the bride’s belly announces the fact. But this article is not about morals. The point is that adult dating is not just about casual relationships as these can be found virtually everywhere today.

However, casual sex is a big part of adult dating and personals in general. In fact, it is what drives the adult dating industry. After all, the same people who seek these types of liaisons in bars and nightclubs have discovered a better venue in online dating: a much better venue.

You see, adult online dating beats the bar scene hands down in that you don’t have to guess who wants what in an adult dating site: it is all spelt out right there in black and white. Plus highly suggestive pictures to go with it.

The first thing you need to do when seeking adult dating partners online is to sign up with a reputable dating site. This is one even more important than when signing up for other types of dating. Why?

Well, the nature of adult personals is that they attract all types of people. It is safe to say that “bad” types of people will be found in an adult dating site. After all, these are people who don’t hide the fact that they are… well, bad (you know, by societal norms). Therefore, you should sign up with a reputable paid dating site. Why not a free dating site?

You want to avoid free adult dating sites simply because they attract a huge number of curiosity seekers and people of ill intentions. No one in his/her right state of mind is going to pay a fee to sign up with an adult dating service “just to see what’s going on there”.

Also, criminal elements like to hang out in free dating sites (including non-adult ones) simply because they know they can hide much more easily. With a paid dating service you can always be traced using the credit card you used to pay your membership fee – unless, of course the card itself is a stolen one.

Next, create a catchy screen name. Just another “hotsandsexyjen24″ or “jakethestud” will not get you far. Try to make it more distinctive and meaningful.

Your picture is perhaps the most important aspect of your adult dating profile. You should post more than one if the site allows. This is where you put your best assets out there. In other words, flaunt it if you have it. No, this does not necessarily mean nudity. Rather, you should attempt to bring out your most attractive physical attributes in the picture.

This could be your bosom, bottom, eyes, lips… well, if you have something that people including strangers complement you on, this is what you should attempt to show in the photo.

You also need to write a good personal profile. Adult dating profiles differ from other types of dating in that you are seeking sex or fun partners, not a date in the traditional sense. Go ahead and use adult language – it is the essence of the game. Just say what you want and what you bring. Read other profiles that you like to get an idea and model (but don’t copy) them.